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What a long strange trip it's been...

Greetings and salutations my old friends, enemies, and acquaintances with whom I have shared much uncomfortable silence with!!

It's been over a year since the last time I logged on and I'm a much poorer man for it. I had to leave suddenly when my entire life collapsed. But hey, these things happen. In that time I don't think I've done any significant role-playing of any sort, and I can't stand it anymore! I couldn't stop thinking about how some of the best times I ever had RPing was right here. So, I'm back. 8)

First, I would like to apologize to anyone I left hanging by leaving suddenly without saying anything. I was cooking up some interesting stuff with a few people and then just vanished. Just to allay any fears, no it was not anything that happened or anyone of you who "drove me away", it was entirely real life issues that caused it (an explanation of that is forthcoming).

Second, I like to thank everyone who makes this place as addictive as it is, and burrowed into my brain over the past year as I slept and sent mind-control beams convincing me to login once again. Without you I might still be playing WoW. *Shudder*

Third, there is no third. Figment of your imagination. Nope. No third.

Forth, what the hell happened to me? Well it all started last year when my girlfriend and I were still living with a roommate. I had spent the previous year trying desperately to find a job I could live with, and bouncing from one company to another. I thought I had something good going with a nice tech support job I had lined up around the end of 2006 and beginning of 2007.

Then, all of a sudden I get fired from that job with no explanation whatsoever (at will employment laws FTW :evil: ). So I start looking for work once again. The roommate, however, is a crotchety old fart who was simple-minded in the extreme (his brain was probably nothing more than a hamster wheel with a legally brain-damaged hamster in it suffering from irritable bowel syndrome, but I digress).

His take on such things was that you go out and get any job you can, and then while working that one you look for a better one. Sounds great in theory, but then so does communism. It never occurred to him that in an at will employment state such as this 1 or 2 absences, to go do interviews or whatever, is more than enough excuse to fire your ass on the spot. Most low-end jobs don't have much tolerance for that sort of thing and so that tends to be precisely what happens. Their attitude is "we don't need you, we have plenty of desperate souls who are willing to work for subsistence wages and who will toe the line and completely put aside any ambitions, aspirations or other aspects of their life to be good little worker drone".

But the roommate is also crotchety and old, so you can't reason with him, and my frequent stretches of unemployment (resulting in delays in getting him the rent) were not sitting well with him. He also didn't like the fact that I wasn't spending every waking moment obsessing over a job. As I was looking for a somewhat good job it involved contacting temp agencies, submitting resumes, etc, which then involved a lot of waiting to see what opportunities became available and what kinds of responses I would get.

The upside of this was that it gave me a lot of time to play EfU, the downside of that was that he knew that’s what I was doing and was getting pissed at the fact. After the tech support gig dried up he started leveling vague threats and I knew something was going to break soon if I didn’t act. It was around this time that there was enough of a blowup that I went in and uninstalled all the games from my system. I didn’t like it, but it shut him up… for awhile. Then I took a shit job from one of the temp agencies and started making barely enough to survive.

It was readily apparent from about the third day in that the job would be intolerable and I called my temp agency to request something else. It was then that I found out about a wonderful new “feature” they offered companies that got temps from them. Apparently the company I was working for got an exclusive deal on their employees, as long as you were temped out to this company, the agency would not place you in any other job. You were locked in; you could look for a job, but not with that agency. The bastards now actually sabotage your attempts to move up in the world because they know the job sucks so much that the turnover rate is murder to them, and so they get to nip that in the bud by limiting your options to go elsewhere. I no long wonder why disgruntled individuals walk into crowded places, gun down a few locals, and then need 75 state troopers to bring them down. I just smile and nod.

So I start looking for work elsewhere and through other agencies, and along the way I get to prove to that fat, old, crotchety bastard that I was right. After only the second day that I called in “sick” to go out and do a job interview, they fired me. There, finally, was real life proof of what I was trying to tell him; you cannot go out and look for good jobs effectively while working a shit job. It takes time out of your day, which you are expected to spend flipping burgers, waiting tables, or in my case, entering data. But, here at last was also where my luck had turned, that interview that day was for a new tech support job that paid even more that my last one, and just as I was fired from the one job I was hired on the other. And that job is the one I have been working at since.

So is that it? Is that all that kept me away? Oh, hell no. You see, life like to deal these little kicks to the groin in GROUPS. After all that there were frequent breakdowns of the car, desperate attempts to keep my credit cards afloat so I could build up enough credit to get out of that hellhole, and just a sprinkling of medical emergencies to round out the year as far as the disaster side of the ledger went. On the positive side, the other things that kept me busy started when I suddenly got handed a $1500 line of credit (which is more than I had ever had up to that point). On the strength of that I was able to get my bank to match it with their credit line, and I was able to finally get the hell out of the roommate situation.

So the past 5 months have been centered around preparing to move, the moving itself, unpacking, buying vast amounts of stuff that would allow us to actually live independently in an apartment of our own (we shared a great many things with the roommate), and all the usual settling in type stuff one would expect. If that doesn’t seem like that big a deal maybe the fact that this is my first apartment on my own might persuade you (At the age of 27, I know it’s pretty sad).

Ah! All settled in, now we can get back to normal, right? Wait, what is that? Could that be the next round of groin soccer I hear? *OOF* *in a high squeaky voice* why yes it is…

Mid December - Got sick enough to have to go to the doctor, miss work. Gotta love that Sinusitis. Less income + medical expenses right after an expensive move, bravo!

New Years Day Surprise – Surprise! It’s Montezuma’s Revenge! Contract stomach flu so vile you can’t do anything but stay curled up in the fetal position for about 2 days. Do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars because you missed more work and have no sick days.

Mid January – Get sick again, go to the doctor again. Sinusitis again. Pay more for doctor visit and prescriptions again. Have a nervous breakdown again as the credit card bills looks like the beaches of Normandy the morning after they were stormed.

Mid January again, just days after the doctor visit – The car finally gives up, blows a head gasket, total engine replacement needed. Cost of such, as much as I paid for the car… that already had 140,000 miles on it. Put a bullet in it and put it out of its misery. New car time! Back to making car payment but now I’m driving something under warranty that doesn’t suck.

Present Day – Sick again, for the 4th time in slightly more than 2 months. Ah, to hell with it, time to go back to EfU! *cough* *cough* *wheeze*

And that’s pretty much it. Compared to all the years before it for me, I would rate it a pretty dull year.

So what about the future? Well, looks like most all of the characters I interacted with before are gone. Whatever plans I had that involved them are pretty much dust. No matter, I can’t remember what half of them were anyway. Looks like Winston has moved back into the Beacon and the old place is still hanging in there. It appears EfU really hasn’t changed much in any truly major way. I stepped out of the Beacon and within minutes of logging in for the first time in a year I was almost killed. Damn, it’s good to be home!

Now tell me, what have I missed? What’s been going on with YOU for the past year?

Dude.

Welcome back.

And quite the story.

Pretty crazy imo. Welcome.

In theory, communism works!...in theory.

The best way to get reacquainted is with this thread: https://efupw.com/efu1-forum/topic/20/2005/gossip-and-major-events-dm-post-only/index.html?amp;start=180

Just go back a few pages and try to track down the last time you were on, and read forward.

Welcome back, you Ilmateri bastard. Get back in the game, come on.

Welcome back, We missed you.

tl;dr. who are you again?

Welcome back! :D

Actually:

Bummer. Welcome back.

Welcome back to the Underdark. :twisted:

You will be first up against the wall when the revolution comes.

Isn't that right, Madskillsmike?

That's right, DangerousDan. Damn right!

Well, that was a short trip. Less than a month after I return I get assassinated. I suppose these things happen. They just seem to happen at the worst time and in the worst way. People wonder why I'm depressed most of the time. Last week I lose my job, this week I lose the best character I have ever created, not just at EFU, but in all my years of roleplaying.

I suppose it wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't so sudden, hadn't been so stupid, the parties involved hadn't been so uncaring about the whole matter, and if Howland hadn't basically called me an idiot for falling for it, despite there being no warning or any signs, at least from my perspective.

I imagine he and the players of FOIG and GOIF are already formulating counterpoints and justifications telling me I'm wrong, and that absolve them of any guilt in the matter, I imagine a number of people will tell me to just suck it up, that death is common in EFU and I should just accept that I got it in the ass and roll up another character to get emotionally invested in and then have screwed over in some similarly ignoble fashion. But I consider that such arguments only strengthen my reasons for leaving permanently.

You see, I love great stories. I love reading them, writing them, watching them in tv and movies. And if I were to read a book about Elym and it ended the way it did last night I would burn it. I have looked long and hard for some sort of roleplaying endeavor that I could get involved with that would allow me to partake in great stories. After a long string of failures I finally found my way to EFU, and here I thought I had found something wonderful. But that is only when looking at it with rose colors glasses. The truth is, it is boring most of the time, most of the rest of the time it is little more than exp grinding with a thin coat of RP veneer painted over it, and a tiny amount of those rare special moments when something awesome happens.

The question I ask myself now is: Is it worth all the boredom and heartache to get to those (increasingly) rare moments?

No. Not really.

And so I go. I waited till today to write this because had I written it last night it would have been 17 pages of cursing everyone and everyone who owes them money out for everything that I could possibly imagine, and I can imagine a lot :D

I don't think I will be RPing again for a long time, if ever. I gotta believe that there is a better way to participate in great stories besides this. Perhaps in writing my own? Who knows?

I mainly leave this note to apologize to those I leave behind who enjoyed what I brought to the table and were looking forward to more. I am sorry to disappoint you, but with the death of Elym (in such a fashion at least) I find my resolve to move on has died as well. I have spent most of my adult life so far battling recurring bouts of suicidal depression, and this along with other recent events, has sent me into that abyss once more. I am simply not willing to dive back into it again and in doing so put myself in the line of fire. It's just a damned game, it's not worth it.

The secondary reason I leave this note is because I am the sappy sort that has a need for closure. I had to leave suddenly before and in doing so a number of people were left wondering. I had no wish to do so again, as it could be easily avoided this time.

So, to the friends I have made while I have been here I say to you all, thank you for those few rare wonderful moments we created together, and have a good life! :wink:

Sorry y'feel that way.

have a good one

lol bye

Oh no, dude, what happened? Asclepius was one of my favorite pc's to hang out with. Damn.

I play Vind by the way, we had a good time togethor I think.

That sucks man, well, good luck with spending more time with real life... I hear seeing the sun is actually supposedly healthy... I'm waiting for more hard evidence on it though.

One of the things I learned quickly on my time on EfU is that as a multiplayer RP server, you are not the only author that has control over your character's life and story. When it comes to endings, you--alone--most definitely are not the only one with the power to write an ending. Chances are, other players and characters alike will want to see different endings for your own characters.

It is frustrating because at the moment of creation, your character is all yours: from stats to backstory. But unfortunately it is a fact of interactibility.

With all of that said. I had fun with with Elym. Whether it was questing or lounging about the Stand, RPing.

And to be honest: I am a little disappointed my current character wasn't involved in his ending, one I had in mind which was probably nothing like you would prefer. Take that, however, as a sign of how well you played him and the impact he's had.

I certainly didn't mean to insult you. I understand losing PvP can be a bitter pill to swallow. I would be willing to speak more about the situation, what can be done to be less disappointed, how to better enjoy EfU, and so on - however, I think it probably best just to say goodbye and wish you luck elsewhere.

Dude....wow. That sucks. I've been the victim of some pretty vicious ambushes of PvP in my time here and I reacted the same way, with anger and resentment. Followed by depression and a really heartbreak.

Elym was key to the vision of my character and will be hard pressed to find someone like him again. I really, truly enjoyed his presence.

I don't know the events surrounding it, if you like, you can PM me with the details. I'd like to know. I'll also (hopefully) FOIG about it and Drin can come to terms with this.

I really hope that you reconsider your leaving or at least just take a break to calm down a bit. it's hard to do, I know, the DM's have heard my angry spouts before also, they understand sometimes how we become emotionally attached to these people we create as an extension of ourselves.

Be well and I'll see you soon, hopefully.

You let my only paladin to ever hit level four die. I hate you.

On a lighter note, see ya round!

I was kidding (partly) about the above thing.

I envy you, Elym. I wish my characters got into conflict worth killing over. :cry:

I enjoyed playing together the other night. Sorry that your story ended so soon after and that it left a bad taste in your mouth. Take care.

hahahahha write another thing

RC# said it all pretty well, so ditto on that.

I hate to hear about your disappointment. It seems that the lack of control over your own story has really effected you. Based on what you cited as the source of your disappointment, writing seems like it would be a great option!

Holler at me when you come back, if I'm around. I enjoyed Elym's Ilmateri companionship. Peace out man, cool runnings.

Asclepius Elym I should just accept that I got it in the ass
This spurred me to read the whole thing. I was not disappointed. Laters.

Do what's best for yourself. Elym was a great character. Taking a break from EfU helps put things in perspective and I hope you'll return.

The problem as I see it, and I've done this over and over and over myself, is that we all see our own characters as "the" hero / villian of the server. Certainly from our own point of view, this may be true. When looked at from the big picture side of things though, this is not always the case. We simply cant all be Fryar, Lathae, or Sunellar. We cant all be the Scholar, Whitecloak, Plop, or Zau. The simple fact is that most of us, for all our coolness, are really playing the guys in the background that more often then not get steamrolled on the way to someone elses glory. When you read a book, I'm sad to say that there are characters aplenty that buy it for no better reason then to make the hero / villian look like they are badasses.

I went from not liking Elym (as Zau) before your break, to liking him immensely (as Bastiaan) afterwards. I'm sad to see him go, but you really have to try to learn to take the good with the bad on this server. Things arent always going to end the way you want them to. You arent writing this book all on your lonesome.

Metro_Pack lol bye
greatest post ever in the greatest thread ever

post1: HAY GUISE IM BACK HAVE SOME TL;DR COPYPASTA

(insert random welcome back kotter posts)

post2: I GOT WHACKED FUK U GUYS IM OUT

followed by the hallowed post above: LOL BYE

its like the lol, internet of our forum.

oh wait i also almost forgot this gem:

Quote Mags or whoever

"you take the good and the bad"

Tootie be holdin court up in this mofo bitches fo real you all cant see me RAPADOOO